Heart for adoption

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The Rooster Party has a huge heart for Foster Care and Adoption.  Our founders, Dan and Alyssa Lance, have two adopted children and one biological child.  Their oldest son Ezekiel Thomas Bono Lance was adopted the day he was born (April 30, 2003) from Riverside CA. Their daughter Sofia Rima was adopted when she was six months old from Kyrgyzstan. Dan and his wife Alyssa have always been huge advocates for adoption and when the vision came for The Rooster Party they knew supporting the orphan would be at the top of the list of ways they wanted to bring hope to the world.

Our goal at the Rooster Party is to build a network of adoptive families that can support each other and stay connected.  We are also partnering with experts in the field of adoption to be a resource when it comes to questions, advice, and helpful links.  From experience we understand the complexities of the adoption process and we would love to be a support in every way possible throughout the journey.

Our hope is that couples would have a place to get the “Where Do I Start?” questions answered about adoption. Once couples determine which type of adoption (Domestic, International, or Adoption Through Foster Care) fits them best, they can return here to find resources, community, evidenced based adoption research, and hot topics. Ultimately, we want to be a place where couples can get tangible help in navigating the journey of adoption.

Here are some helpful links to get you started.

Domestic Adoption 101
International Adoption 101
Adoption through Foster Care 101

Here are some great links that can get you started…

Domestic / International adoption:
Bethany Christian services

Adoption preparation:

Transracial adoption:

Facts About Prenatal Drug and Alcohol Exposure:





Recommended Book List (bolded books come highly recommended):
• Adamec, Christine. “Is Adoption for You?: The Information You Need to Make the Right Choice.” Wiley and Sons: New York, NY. 1998.
• Adesman, Andrew, M.D. and Christine Adamec. “Parenting Your Adopted Child: A Positive Approach to Building a Strong Family.” McGraw-Hill: New York, NY. 2004.
• Atwood, Thomas C. and Schooler, Jayne E. “The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family.” Navpress: Colorado Springs, CO. 2008.
• Bowen, Richard, Amy Tan, and Karin Evans. “Mei Mei, little sister: Portraits For a Chinese Orphanage.” Chronical Books: San Francisco, CA. 2005.
• Buxton, Bonnie. “Damaged Angels: An Adoptive Mother Discovers the Tragic Toll of Alcohol in Pregnancy.” Carol and Graf Publishers: New York, NY. 2004, 2005.
• Chasnoff, Ira J., M.D., Linda D. Schwartz, PhD, Cheryl L. Pratt, PhD, and Gwendolyn J. Neuberger, M.D. “Risk and Promise: A Handbook for Parents Adopting a Child from Overseas.” NTI Upstream: Chicago, IL. 2006.
• Coughlin, Amy, and Caryn Abramowitz. “Cross-Cultural Adoption: How to Answer Questions from Family, Friends, and Community.” LifeLine Press: Washington, D.C. 2004.
• Davenport, Dawn. “The Complete Book of International Adoption: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding Your Child.” Broadway Books: New York, NY. 2006.
• Dorow, Sara, ed. “I Wish for You a Beautiful Life: Letters for the Korean Birth Mothers of Ae Ran Won to Their Children.” Yeong and Yeong Book Co.: St. Paul, MN. 1999.
• Gillespie, Natalie Nichols. “Successful Adoption: A Guide for Christian Families.” Integrity Publishers: Franklin, TN. 2006.
• Gray, Deborah D. “Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents.” Perspectives Press: Indianapolis, Indiana. 2002.
• Jewett-Jarett, Claudia. “Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss.” Harvard Common Press: Boston, MA. 1994.
• Keck, Gregory C., PH.D. and Regina M. Kupuecky. “Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow.” Ed. Lynda Gianforte Mansfield. Pinon Press: Colorado Springs, CO. 2002.
• Keefer, Betsy, and Jayne E. Schooler. “Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past.” Bergin and Garvey: Westport, CT. 2000.
• Kranowitz, Carol Stock. “The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun: Activities for Kids with Sensory Processing Disorder.” Penguin Group: New York, NY. 2003.
• McCreight, Brenda, PH. D. “Parenting Your Adopted Older Child: How to Overcome the Unique Challenges and Raise a Happy and Healthy Child.” New Harbinger Publications: Oakland, CA. 2002.
• Miller, Laurie C., M.D. “The Handbook of International Adoption Medicine: A Guide for Physicians, Parents, and Providers.” Oxford Press: New York, NY. 2005.
• Nakazawa, Donna Jackson. “Does Anybody Else Look Like Me?: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Multiracial Children.” Lifelong Books: Cambridge, MA. 2003.
• Nelson-Erichsen, Jean and Heino Erichsen. “How to Adopt Internationally: A Guide for Agency-Directed and Independent Adoptions.” Mesa House: Fort Worth, TX. 1997.
• Nelson-Erichsen, Jean. “Inside The Adoption Agency: Understanding Intercountry Adoption in the Era of the Hague Convention.” Erichsen Consultations, 2007.
• Purvis, Karyn. “The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Child.” McGraw Hill, 2007.
• Simon, Rita J., and Howard Altstein. “Adoption Across Borders: Serving the Children in Transracial and Intercountry Adoptions.” Rowman and Littlefield: Lanham, MD. 2000.
• Taylor, Kimberley Raunikar. “Celebrating Adoption: The Intentional Family.” Beacon Hill: Kansas City, MO. 2007.
• Tepper, Thais, ed., Lois Hannon, ed., and Dorothy Sandstrom, ed. “International Adoption: Challenges and Opportunities.” 2nd ed. 3rd printing. 2003.
• Whitten, Kathleen. Labor of the Heart: A Parent’s Guide to the Decisions and Emotions in Adoption. M. Evans Publishing, Lanham, MD. 2008.

If you have any questions at this time you can email us at info@theroosterparty.org